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| Thu, 7 Jan 2010 16:40:25 |
Smarter Dater Team |
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A Snapshot of Things You should not Do on Online Dating Sites
Posted, 04 January, 2010 by Ben Smarter Dater Team. 
Its interesting data to read that more than 50% of single Britons are engaging in online dating and other social network sites searching for their ideal partner. In Jan 2010 alone up to 40million singles will join a dating site. Staggering numbers
A lot of singles are also engaging in more social dating practices, whereby they are merging social networking with online dating. This fusion creates a more friend based approach to dating whereby you can grow a network of people you are interested in dating or have dated already and are now just friends in contact. The benefit of this is that it’s
a) safer
b) you get know your date well enough before any major commitments
c) you can largely avoid dating scammers
d) it helps you further understand the
type daters you attract vs those you are actually interested in attracting.
The downside is that the network can grow so large you may lose sight and touch with your network - online dating is not near the idea or level of facebook or twitter, and you as a dater could be spoilt for choice.
So, finding love has most definitely moved to cyberspace and has tended to yield better results since members have access to a huge database of like individuals in search of other like persons for mainly the same cause.
So now you have joined a dating site, perhaps on a free joining promotion and you are ready to meet or find your dating partner online. Instead of focusing on what you should do lets focus on a few of the major things you don’t do regarding online dating.
1. Never lie – obvious as it sounds, but surprisingly a lot of people out-right lie about their identities online. There are many reasons some are as lame as lack of confidence to reveal dater’s true identity, so by creating a pretend character works for such daters – sorry unfortunately it doesn’t – some reasons are more serious as online dating scams.
2. Don’t prolong the use of the same profile photo or use an inaccurate photo – If you are ever planning on meeting up with the people you’re talking to, they will find out and probably react badly. The common sense is if you’re hoping to begin a relationship of any kind then just like you should have an accurate and true profile, so your photo should reflect the same qualities. It’s best to start with honesty. Change is always good it shows your active in updating your main photo every as well as being active on the dating site. Your response from daters will be more positive
3. Never text talk – Anyone who is serious about online dating should not text talk. Type full grammatically correct sentences, and exclude words which can only be translated using the urban dictionary. Type in simple terms and do not use over complicated jargons either – you won’t impress anybody. Another thing to bear in mind is typing MESSAGES IN CAPITALS. Though it may not be the intention of the sender, CAPITALS is an online equivalent of shouting at someone. CAPITALS are an outward exclamation of a high level of emotion expressed between two or more individuals. CAPITALS send a mixed message to those who receive them. So definitely not the kind of image you want to project to a potential date partner.
4. Leave the bad experiences where they belong in the past – A potential date partner does not want to hear about and could not care less about someone who broke your heart in the past. Especially if you met the person online. They’re probably hoping that you’re going to be a fun dater and not a dater who is feeling sorry for themselves. At the same time do not brag about your past conquests, such stories will not be well received by other daters.
Honesty is the best policy.
Smarter Dater Team
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| Thu, 7 Jan 2010 13:28:52 |
Smarter Dater Team |
Tags:
dating
success
winners
Online Daters those who succeed and those who lose out!!!!!
I am often asked the following, why can't I get an online date? or told that online dating doesn't work for me. Or success stories are 1 in a million for dating meat heads.
Well a large portion of daters both online are inactive. What I mean is that they are members who paid their membership fee and often have this belief that dozen of women or men will send abundant messages of dating requests to inbox.
Well sorry people this is a big fat myth. Those who do succeed are the most proactive members. These are members who go and reach out to other daters. These proactive daters won't allow rejection to stop them from still pursuing their desire to find that all important partner.
Ladies think for a minute about that handbag or that hot pair of shoes you so desire. You will scale the depths of the earth until you get them in your wardrobe. Well whats different if you place the same value of effort on finding a partner or an ideal member worth dating. Men and their toys are a similar story.
So lets highlight the 3 KEY features of an inactive dater
1. They do not complete their entire profile fully: These daters simply fill out merely their username, email address and their post code, and expect a windful of dates to literaly knock on their door. Personally from my experience, I wont name other websites, the profile filling process can be quite lengthy and tideous so I can understand to an extent. I can say, fortunately, that the profile builder process on SmarterDater.com is short and highly detailed.
The point is in order to get your ideal match and allow others to even know ANYTHING about you, you need to COMPLETE your profile FULLY. That includes a profile picture which is one of the single most important aspects of attracting encounters on your page.
2. Stigmatised daters. These daters are seeking the powerful results of online dating but are either, abit ashamed that they have to engage in online dating practices to get dates?????. Strangely these daters actually sign up and often "forget" to upload a profile picture of themselves ??? (And that alone decreases their chances of getting a date by 90%)
3. Afraid of rejection. These daters are not confident enough to dive in and get involved. They allow their fears of rejection to rob them of opportunites
of dating both in the online and offline world.
These are just 4 of the actions Pro-daters (proactive members) displays and should be followed by all prospective members
1. Want and Desire results. These daters are bullish and know what they want - a date FULL STOP!!!.
2. Pro-daters understand the numbers game. Whether you are looking for marriage, relationships, social dating or casual encounters there is a numbers game involved.
They contact, interact with as many potential prospects as possible. Not 4 or 5 but 10s, 20s and more. They are the ones using the Virtual dating, sending flirts, emails, you name it they will do it and have fun. The more the dates the greater the chances of finding the person you are looking for.
3. Rejection is taken on the chin. Their skin is thinker than an ox, they have a granet jaw when rejection strikes a blow in their face. They are persistant and persevere. Fear and rejection doesn't exist in their vocabulary
4. Pro-daters have completed profiles and regularly update their profile picture. Pro-daters will have a picture which is realistic and organic. Everyone at some point of their lives have had professional pictures taken which enhances and adds flattery to a members picture overall look.
Pro-daters generally stay clear from such pictures as they exaggerate a level of perfection which none of us possess.
I often have been told of first date disappointments at the hands of the professional profile pictures.
Follow these tips and dating success will surely be yours.
And remember
Dont be a Dater be a SmarterDarter
Regards
Smarter Dater Team 
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| Tue, 3 Nov 2009 14:47:53 |
Sarah Jones |
Tags:
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women
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Men, you should Pay.
Should men pay on a first date? I think so. It’s me again. I find it hard to believe how some men think it is alright to ask a lady out on a date and then when the bill comes rush to declare how much financial split is…50/50. oh really. So at what point was this decided when you decided to ask me out.
Let makes something real clear from the out set before we continue and this is purely my opinion, but I do believe it is the opinions of many men and women out there. As far as dating is concerned especially on a first date it is courteous for a man to pick up the bill at the end of the night. It simple terms you should pay. It should be cost which be absorbed with the biggest smile of appreciation on his face.
However Ladies, because men are obliged to pick up the bill it does not excuse us for taking advantage of this. I believe this is what has happened to my date hence his this display of cheapness her. I would not encourage myself to leave my date with a hefty bill as I can imagine that if I wanted any chance of a repeat performance with the same guy I could kissed that thought good bye. It’s not fair when that happens. However, it does not excuse a man from giving the wining and dining we deserve, call me old fashioned.
So please guys no more cheapness or if a dinning date is far too expense for you, especially in these harsh economic times, be creative and find something fun, enjoyable and cheaper that you can manage.
Sarah
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| Tue, 3 Nov 2009 14:09:13 |
Sarah Jones |
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Dating is in essence a fun and enjoyable experience for two and sometimes four individuals. Even if a relationship does not prevail it is nice to socialise. One date can turn into two dates or three or however many more. So If that’s the impression a guy gives me then why does he leave me at the door and doesn’t call.
I am confused when men do this and why? Is it an ego thing, did you get a kick out of leading me on. Or maybe you were disappointed that I did not invite you in – and I am not referring to just my flat. Or do you have another woman waiting for you and you are trying to sow your royal oats. No? Then why?
I mean, it is frustrating to me because it is almost like a waste of time and effort. Ladies don’t go on dates just in their Night wear (though I bet some men wish we would). It takes time and little effort for us to prep for the date and when we do we look good on the arm of the guy we are dating.
So if you enjoyed my company enjoyed my time, enjoyed my beauty and showed me with compliments then why no follow up call to see hows things are and potentially scheduling another date, No?
I admit I broke the code and called his phone number to see what was up. But no answer no return call. So to me there obviously is an issue. Is it with me? I guess I will never know at this rate. I am not needy just need to know why men like to play these games. Can someone share some light on this please! 
Sarah.
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