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| Thu, 7 Jan 2010 13:28:52 |
Smarter Dater Team |
Tags:
dating
success
winners
Online Daters those who succeed and those who lose out!!!!! 
I am often asked the following, why can't I get an online date? or told that online dating doesn't work for me. Or success stories are 1 in a million for dating meat heads.
Well a large portion of daters both online are inactive. What I mean is that they are members who paid their membership fee and often have this belief that dozen of women or men will send abundant messages of dating requests to inbox.
Well sorry people this is a big fat myth. Those who do succeed are the most proactive members. These are members who go and reach out to other daters. These proactive daters won't allow rejection to stop them from still pursuing their desire to find that all important partner.
Ladies think for a minute about that handbag or that hot pair of shoes you so desire. You will scale the depths of the earth until you get them in your wardrobe. Well whats different if you place the same value of effort on finding a partner or an ideal member worth dating. Men and their toys are a similar story.
So lets highlight the 3 KEY features of an inactive dater
1. They do not complete their entire profile fully: These daters simply fill out merely their username, email address and their post code, and expect a windful of dates to literaly knock on their door. Personally from my experience, I wont name other websites, the profile filling process can be quite lengthy and tideous so I can understand to an extent. I can say, fortunately, that the profile builder process on SmarterDater.com is short and highly detailed.
The point is in order to get your ideal match and allow others to even know ANYTHING about you, you need to COMPLETE your profile FULLY. That includes a profile picture which is one of the single most important aspects of attracting encounters on your page.
2. Stigmatised daters. These daters are seeking the powerful results of online dating but are either, abit ashamed that they have to engage in online dating practices to get dates?????. Strangely these daters actually sign up and often "forget" to upload a profile picture of themselves ??? (And that alone decreases their chances of getting a date by 90%)
3. Afraid of rejection. These daters are not confident enough to dive in and get involved. They allow their fears of rejection to rob them of opportunites
of dating both in the online and offline world.
These are just 4 of the actions Pro-daters (proactive members) displays and should be followed by all prospective members
1. Want and Desire results. These daters are bullish and know what they want - a date FULL STOP!!!.
2. Pro-daters understand the numbers game. Whether you are looking for marriage, relationships, social dating or casual encounters there is a numbers game involved.
They contact, interact with as many potential prospects as possible. Not 4 or 5 but 10s, 20s and more. They are the ones using the Virtual dating, sending flirts, emails, you name it they will do it and have fun. The more the dates the greater the chances of finding the person you are looking for.
3. Rejection is taken on the chin. Their skin is thinker than an ox, they have a granet jaw when rejection strikes a blow in their face. They are persistant and persevere. Fear and rejection doesn't exist in their vocabulary
4. Pro-daters have completed profiles and regularly update their profile picture. Pro-daters will have a picture which is realistic and organic. Everyone at some point of their lives have had professional pictures taken which enhances and adds flattery to a members picture overall look.
Pro-daters generally stay clear from such pictures as they exaggerate a level of perfection which none of us possess.
I often have been told of first date disappointments at the hands of the professional profile pictures.
Follow these tips and dating success will surely be yours.
And remember
Dont be a Dater be a SmarterDarter
Regards
Smarter Dater Team 
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